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Deborah Gregory's avatar

Tracie, your soulful words carry such depth and tenderness. Thank you for sharing them. Though I'm reading them two months later, they still resonate deeply. Holding space for you with warmth and gratitude for your honesty in navigating grief. 🙏❤️

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Tracie Nichols's avatar

Thank you Deborah. I appreciate the kindness. It is certainly an uneven path.

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Janet Roper's avatar

♥️witnessing ♥️ and thank you for sharing

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Tracie Nichols's avatar

Thank you, my friend 🧡

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Andrea Mathieson's avatar

Thank you for sharing, so gently yet precisely, your experience at this tender time. I send you a warm hug... with love!

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Tracie Nichols's avatar

Somehow, the precision was important, Andrea. Thank you for the hug ❤️

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michellegd's avatar

to tenderness, with tenderness, in tenderness... ohmygoodness yes to tenderness.

sitting with you.

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Tracie Nichols's avatar

It's nourishing to be accompanied like this, Michelle. 💜

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PattyMara's avatar

Knowing the bare bones of being a motherless child casts us adrift.

Eventually our toes will touch a sandy bottom, near the shore.

But not yet.

We wait for one another, with a sun warmed towel.

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Tracie Nichols's avatar

Indeed it does. It's sustaining to know that warmth is waiting PattyMara.

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Caryn Mirriam-Goldberg's avatar

Tender indeed, and also so full and quiet at once. Thank you for sharing this. I find all big grief is like this -- it's all the words and also, at times, none of the words or the right words to catch its essence. It's all the dis words you mention (disjointed, dysrhythmic) and more, and when I touch down in it, the only thing that always seems right is tenderness, so thank you for naming that. Sending love and more breathing space.

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Tracie Nichols's avatar

Thank you Caryn. It's complex and yet elemental all at once. Thank goodness for tenderness.

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Elizabeth Chesla's avatar

Thank you for sharing your tenderness ❤

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Tracie Nichols's avatar

Thank you for your support and encouragement ❤️

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Amy Gross's avatar

For the second time today, I’m taken back to the spring of 2017 - my mother’s last spring. My last with her. What I can say in this moment is that no matter the circumstance, we are never ready to lose our mommas. My grief continues. It is more gentle and I reach out to her spirit continually. I see her in my own hands and face. In the “things” that she gave me and those that were hers and now mine. Thank you for a moment to wonder why I’m pulled back to her twice today. The reason will become clear - your story indeed needs to be shared. When you are ready. And however you wish. Sending love to you.

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Tracie Nichols's avatar

I'm in tender company, Amy. ❤️

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